Sons and mothers

Today I happened to read the status update of renowned film maker and actor Balachandra Menon about his mother who passed away recently. In his touching account he has mentioned that his father used to say that he was a mom’s son. Every son is a mom’s son. The first woman or rather the first person who influences a man in his life is always his mother. A mother designs the mindset of her children; especially that of her son.

I have listened to some good gentleman friends, my husband and my father talk about their departed mothers with a poignant resignation. A mother reigns like a goddess in a son’s mind long after she ceases to be. Their power and influence may differ according to their personalities and circumstances but they continue to be a longing presence in the hearts of their children; especially sons.  

A son belongs solely to his mother until she generously gives him away to another woman; his wife. A wife who finds that her husband loves and reveres his mother can rest assured of a life time of love and care from him. A man who loves and respects his mother can never disregard or ill-treat another woman.

The loss of a parent at any age is an irreparable loss. The loss of a mother steals from one the tender comfort of a loving caress, an affectionate gaze, a gentle kiss. A mother’s presence gives a feeling of reassurance of having someone to run to in distress and in joy. The final prayer of a loving mother would be that her children should be cared for even after she is gone.

No love is selfless. A mother willfully gives away and let go her wishes and happiness sometimes to see their children smile. She does so because her heart is set on an even bigger reward; the reward of love and remembrance of a life time.